Nobody likes to be lectured to but sometimes it necessary.
Case in point: The last Cherry Creek School Board meeting.
The primary item of the evening, if you can believe it, was an over 2 hour presentation of the study, the analysis, the rationale, and the time frame for implementing a 15 minute change to the school starting times. There were speakers during the public comment session that, quite literally, had tears in their eyes as they argured passionately either for, or against, the change in the starting times.
This is not to diminish the importance of the issue; particularly to teenagers.
Anyone that has teenage children knows how important sleep is to them. Making the decision to delay the high school start time was, therefore, a laudable one; made in the interests of student health and safety.
However, I have to ask; where is that same level of concern for health and safety when it comes to the issue of making pornography available to kids? Where is the parent concern over what, arguably, is an issue that, in importance to the health of children, leaves sleep times in the dust?
I wonder, could we, like the start times meeting, have an expert attend a school board meeting and deliver a discussion of the effects of violent and dehumanizing pornography on developing minds. How do these images and messages shape a young person’s view of the world and of their relationships? What expectations are created? What fantasies that will never be fulfilled?
I am pretty certain what they would say. They would describe the high incidence of failed relationships, the problems holding jobs, the incident of partner violence; all of which they learned from exposure to pornography.
Do you really want your son growing up to think that a leather mask and a gag, while being whipped into submission is route to happiness?
Do parents really want their daughters growing up to think that they merely exist as an object of casual use by men?
The effects are well documented in adults: desensitization, unreal partner expectations, damage to relationship building, bonding issues, divorce, mysogenistic views of women, poor body image; addiction to pornography; the list goes on and on.
And these are the effects on adult brains. What can we expect from in the undeveloped, mushy grey matter that is still forming as a child’s brain? Is there a connection to the current rape crisis in our colleges? Is there a connection to the rapidly rising incidence of STDs and AIDS among young people; those in the 18-25 year cohort? I have my guess. What’s your’s?
This should be of a huge concern to parents. These kids are our future. Is this the future you want for them?
Why does this not concern parents?
We have 2 daughters. We want them to grow to be confident, independent women; secure in themselves and in their relationships with men and to view those relationships as mutually supportive, to the benefit of both partners to the arrangement.
What does the Cherry Creek School District want for the children in their care? Well, they want them to have sleep. We know this from the action they have taken.
It seems that they also want them to have pornography. We know this from the lack of action they have taken. Why would they ever want this? God help them.